Creating NEW BEGINNINGS
In with the new not out with the old
Create change by inviting in the new, instead of spending time and energy trying to get rid of old habits.
Sometimes, if we take things out of our lives, whether they be food, drink, people or any other unhealthy habit, we can experience a void. Often, we realise that something or someone isn’t serving us to our higher good any more, and after what can be a long drawn out relationship with this thing or person, we choose to then remove it from our lives. It is totally understandable that we then feel a void, like there seems to be something missing. Well, there is something missing. The thing you took away or out of your life is missing. This may create time, loneliness, stress or anxiety at first. And often this is where we can revert to old patterns.
Often we have had this something or someone in our lives for a while, and they or it has filled an emotional need, whether that be stress, attachment, loneliness, neediness or any other emotionally driven desire. We are emotionally driven beings. Then, we get on a health kick or have a health crisis or something similar and we start eliminating things out of our lives but we haven’t actually fixed the reason why we wanted or needed that thing.
For example, you stop buying coffee, but the reason you drank coffee is for your lack of energy. Then, when you don’t have the coffee, you don’t have the caffeine kick… there is a void in your life. Not only is the social event of getting the coffee missing but the energy hit is missing. You feel slow and lousy and are much more likely to fail your health kick.
Instead, when you add things into your life, things really start to change.
I know our lives can feel jammed packed sometimes. And fitting one more thing in can seem almost impossible. Well, start small.
When you start to think about the things you want in your life - Don’t listen to your internal talk around the excuses as to why you can’t have it. Now that can be hard work and not very useful.
Start making small changes by doing new things. If you are stuck with where to start… one way to get started is to get out a piece of paper and a pen and write a 100 dreams list. Write 100 things you want to do, want to be, want to see, want to have, people you want to meet or hang with. Write how you want to feel, dress or what you’d love to eat or even study.
No matter what your budget, and what excuses you are carrying - getting started is the key. This is the important part. And no matter what happens and how things pan out… just keep starting. Start by introducing even one small element of what it is that you desire.
Now not many people can create a tropical garden oasis in their back yard in a day but almost everyone could get a cutting off a friend or neighbour and plant it in a day. Not everyone could convert into an organic eating vegan in one day but almost everyone could eat an extra piece of fruit in one day. You could walk down the street. You could call an old (or new) friend. You could have that bath or smell that essential oil. You could take yourself through a few yoga stretches. You could search up a meditation or some breath work techniques. You could play some energising music. You can do something. You can start!
Instead of kicking the coffee… do a meditation before you go to bed, as it may relieve stress and allow a better quality sleep and hence for energy. Wake up to lemon juice in your water. Go for a walk. Breathe. Add in some nutritious fresh fruit or veggies to your diet. Drink more water. Join a yoga class. Eat mindfully. All these things can enhance your vital energy and help to make better choices and create more options.
However small it may feel – it is crucial to just start. This then sets off all kinds of responses in the body, mind and heart. From here it is onward and upward. One thing leads to another. And before you know it, bad habits melt away. Through introducing the new, you create the energy, the health, the momentum to create bigger changes than you could ever imagine.
You may even find that coffee becomes ‘not so necessary’, as your own natural energy levels rise. You don’t need to mask your mood or attitude with caffeine. We generally drink alcohol for a reason, maintain dysfunctional relationships for reasons we sometimes do not understand – filling the void once removed or discovering the real reason can be avoided by simply starting to add new things in. The new things grow and gently push the old habits, desires or needs away. Not suppress them but free them – let them go.